Did you know that 80% of singles have fessed up to lying on their online dating profiles? In a study conducted by researchers at the University of Wisconsin-Madison and Cornell University found that 80% of online daters lie about their height, weight or age.
People lie to talk themselves up, not,to be liars. The internet, after all, is a place where it is easy to pretend to be someone who you are not.
Research has found that slight misrepresentations on online dating sites are quite common, major lies are actually rare – which is reassuring!
So what are the 10 most common lies people use online?
Here they are:
Both men and women are guilty of lying about their age – especially in the 40 to 50 age range. According to a study commissioned by BeautifulPeople.com people round down by 5 years to appear in more searches.
50% of men are untruthful about their height – saying they are taller According to a study by Ok Cupid taller guys received twice as many messages as shorter guys. Guys know women prefer taller guys. Whereas shorter women get more attention online.
More women lie about weight than men. Women took off 3.8kgs whereas men took of .6kgs. There is absolutely no point lying about weight as when you meet it will be obvious – it will never result in a 2nd date!
- Body Type
Online dating sites ask people to describe their body type and this is an other area people lie. Men will frequently describe themselves as athletic and toned and women describe themselves as curvy. Average often means overweight! As a dating coach I get people who tell me they get a lot of first dates from online sites but no second dates. Their question to me is why? The reason is lying about your weight or body type. People have definite types they are attracted to and if you have gotten them to a date misrepresenting yourself they will be disappointed and choose not to see you again. Remember you need to be with someone who likes you for you and how you look. My advice for your profile is to make sure your body type matches your photos and the activities you like to do.
People lie anywhere between 20 -40% on their income bracket. Men actually thought it was acceptable to lie about income or occupation more than anything else in their profile. The reason they do this is they know how important this is to women. My advice is this is something that shouldn’t be answered in a profile.
- Job Type/Title
42% of men lie about some aspect of their job whereas 32% of women do. Some women also downplayed their intelligence.
This is the biggest area where people lie and was found to be the single most deceptive element of a online profile. It is common to post photos that don’t accurately represent the person – old photos, digitally improved photos or just head shots. I recommend people put up between 3-5 photos – one good head shot, one full body photo and one doing something you love. So often I find people wreck their profiles by putting too many photos up. The thing with a photo is you want it to look good but not so good that the person won’t recognise you when they arrive at a date. For more tips read – Internet Dating What to Avoid and What to Include.
- Hobbies and Interests
This is another common area where people lie because they want to show themselves in the best possible light. People may say they like sport – when it is something they only do once in a blue moon. I love the story of a guy who selected women who said they loved to walk along the beach. When he contacted the women and attempted to arrange a date walking along the beach they ALL declined and said they didn’t want to, many said it was something they never do! Your profile should reflect what you genuinely love to do, that way it will attract a person who enjoys similar things.
- Looking for a relationship
A lot of people will say they want a relationship when in fact they don’t. Men are more guilty of this as they have learnt in the past it gets them what they want. Guys know that their chances of getting laid will plummet if they indicate that they are only interested in casual.
- Relationship Status
According to research firm GlobalWebIndex (GWI), which released some figures on Tinder 42% of users are married! Of course this has to be the worst lie of all!
It may sound grim but don’t let this put you off, 40% of people over forty meet online, it is a bit like sorting the wheat from the chaff! My advice is go on dates with out too many expectations then you can only be pleasantly surprised.