In a relationship, it is easy to worry about the big things and let the small but crucial things slip by. Those seemingly small but crucial things are essential to observe for a healthy relationship.
This week I am going to share some of the things you might overlook in a relationship.
7 Small but Crucial Things to Observe in A Relationship
1. In Your Relationship, You Need to Enjoy their Company
This one seems obvious and you would think that you wouldn’t be with someone whose company you don’t enjoy. However, I see way too many people have wild chemistry with someone they don’t really like. It’s time to notice how much you really enjoy their company and look at the reality rather than your idea of them. The secret is to find a person who you enjoy spending time with. Because the reality is that it’s actually possible to spend all your time with someone for many years and not get sick of them! In fact, you can end up loving them in a deeper way than when you first met.
2. A Healthy Relationship Can Feel Scary
Being vulnerable and opening your heart is scary! When you open yourself up to someone else and are vulnerable it is quite normal to feel scared because you are out of your comfort zone. If you are used to being in a relationship where you don’t feel good enough or are trying to prove you are worthwhile, a healthy relationship will make you feel uncomfortable and scared. Maybe this is your first good relationship and you are so used to being treated badly that it feels wrong. I want to reassure you that you can be a healthy relationship and want to cry or even throw up especially if you are used to being with an ar**hole. It doesn’t mean that it isn’t the right relationship for you.
3 They Might Not be Your Type
You might be surprised at the person you end up in a relationship with! In fact, they may not be the type of person you imagined being in a relationship with and that is good news! Because the type of people you have chosen in the past didn’t work out. In fact, it’s likely that you have been with someone before who you thought was perfect for you, you know that person who you felt was your type, but they were the most toxic for you!
4. A Relationship Doesn’t Complete You
I am sure you have heard that your person will complete you but it is a myth! You actually won’t feel more complete as a person. The reality is that everything’s pretty much the same, except you’re in a relationship.
5. Communicate with Love and Kindness
Chose to be kind over being right. Look at kindness as being the new black or the new sexy! Being kind is a small thing that is crucial for the happiness of your relationship. Before you speak, I want you to think is it necessary? Is it true, is it kind and will it hurt anyone? Communicate by being honest in a way that lands softy. Then your partner is able to hear what you have to say. This will create a wonderful, loving relationship.
6. Flirt and Be Playful
Are you stuck in a rut in a relationship that kills the spark? You are with your person for a reason, and just because you have gotten into the comfort zone doesn’t mean you should forget to flirt and be playful. Being playful and flirting with your partner will remind you of all the things you find likeable, fun, sexy and desirable about them. This small crucial thing will always make your relationship stronger
7. For a Strong Relationship, Get Help
Most couples break up over something they saw early on in their relationship. However, most couples don’t get help until around the 6-year mark when the problems become entrenched and difficult to solve. I recommend that you get support in your relationship earlier rather than later to keep your relationship strong! Remember the grass isn’t greener on the other side, it is greener where you water it.
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