How do you date/find love in the time of coronavirus?
I am going to share 7 tips to manage dating/finding love in the time of Coronavirus. I know these are challenging and scary times that feel extra tough if you are single.
Each day, everything is changing because of the coronavirus. Travel to various places has been banned and people coming back from overseas have to self-isolate for 14 days.
The changes caused by coronavirus are happening by the minute and are affecting the way we go about life causing fear and uncertainty.
Dating is hard enough without navigating a world of coronavirus, fear and social isolation. In fact, isolation is a much more difficult thing to consider if you are single and live alone.
Does this mean dating has to go on hold too?
You still have options!
Your love life could even improve in the time of self-distancing!
- Dare2Date will still hold events while they are allowed and when that changes will move events to the virtual space, allowing you a different option to online dating.
- You can still use online dating to connect and get to know other singles. If you have watched Love is Blind on Netflix it shows that you can take the time to get to know someone beyond the initial chemistry. You can use your phone to talk and video chat, taking things slowly and building a real old-fashioned connection as you really get to know each other.
- Use this time to work on yourself to be the best version of yourself and to be in the best possible place to be in a healthy, magical relationship. Use the time effectively – coronavirus won’t last forever.
7 Positive Steps to Take in a Time of Coronavirus
and Social Distancing
1. Look at Your Dating Goals in the Time Of Coronavirus
This the perfect time to look at what you are looking for when it comes to dating and relationships. It is time to be crystal clear about what you want and it is is the perfect time to reassess your dating goals. If you are unclear about what you want, then you are likely to attract someone who is also unclear about what they want.
2. Look at Your Online Profile
This is a good time to have a good look at your online profile and redo it. Update your photographs and write a profile that is original, fun and reflects who you are. Many people skip the written profile, however, it matters and 63% of singles use your written profile to decide if you are a match or not.
3. Change How you Use Online Dating
Online dating comes with a lot of bad behaviour as people are in often in a rush to meet people in real life. You match with someone and then start chatting. The problem is people are talking to more than one person at a time and there is a big rush to meet for that first coffee date to see if you have a spark. As things are changing and people don’t want to be exposed to the risk of the coronavirus there won’t be the rush to meet quickly. This will allow you to have some real conversations and to form a connection rather than rushing and talking to 30 people at once!
It allows you time to work on your communication skills and see what works and what doesn’t. If you want some extra help, why not check out How to Succeed Online.
4. Date Slowly
It is way too easy to quickly swipe through hundreds of profiles without reading what they have said. Now because you have more time, take more time. Put in effort when you write your messages to use something that is fun and memorable. I know so many singles are worried about wasting time, yet the haphazard approach they use takes them much longer.
Slow things down, be curious and have fun.
5. Use Your Phone for Talking Instead of Texting!
You can try the good old-fashioned skill of talking on a phone to get to know each other. When I tell my coaching clients how important a phone conversation is and many of them HATE the idea. But it works really well and saves you a great deal of wasted time meeting someone you have nothing in common with. Nowadays, we rely so heavily on text messaging and it has to be the worst way to communicate. It is so open to miscommunication. If the worst-case scenario happens and you can’t leave your house, you will welcome a phone call and the connection.
You can also take advantage of video calls to get to know each other, it allows you to get a really good idea of what someone is like.
The slower way of getting to know someone allows your relationship to grow naturally. You get to chat, flirt and banter and then imagine how it will feel when you finally meet. People are surprising when you give them a chance and you could be surprised at who you can have a great relationship with. By the time you get to meet in the real world, you will have formed a strong connection and moved beyond the superficial things that don’t matter. This is how courtship worked in the good old days.
6. Look at How you Feel About Yourself
It can be way too easy to think that you are ready for a relationship when you are not.
This is a good time to look at how you feel about yourself. It is important to value, love and believe in yourself so you can allow a good person/relationship into your life. It is time to look at what you believe about yourself because when you are around someone your beliefs about yourself will trickle out of you. You may try to stop that, yet no matter what you do they have a sneaky way of coming out. If you don’t believe at a subconscious level that you deserve a good person that will come through. Over time you will think and act like someone who doesn’t believe they deserve someone great.
I want to tell you about the law of belief transference – basically, it means the person who has the stronger belief will transfer that belief to the other.
This is how it works: You meet someone who thinks you are beautiful/handsome, amazing and that they have never met anyone like you. Yet deep down you are thinking that you don’t deserve to be happy, that you aren’t worthy of love, that you aren’t good enough, etc. Over time your belief will break their belief and they will start to belief that you don’t deserve them!
So, it is important to change the way you think and the way you feel about yourself and this starts with you and what you deeply believe at the subconscious level.
7. Deal with Your Stuff
I see many singles carry the pain forward from their past which either stops them from dating anyone or makes them to choose the worst person for them. The universe/God wants you to deal/heal the pain of the past and will often bring the same situations over and over until you finally get the message and learn the lesson. Too many people end up in relationship Ground Hog Day until they learn that valuable lesson. Take the time to deal with your stuff and your future self will thank you.
Or maybe you are holding onto someone who doesn’t really want to be with you and who just enjoys the convenience of someone in their life. You know those on-again, off-again relationships that go nowhere and just continue to cause you pain.
Finally, the busyness of life often gets in the way of the very thing that you want. This forced shutdown gives you the time and space to reflect, learn and to heal. Use the time you are given.
Remember it is also the perfect time to work with a coach in the virtual world! Why not take advantage of a free 30-minute discovery call? Book here.
Wishing you the best, in a difficult time.