If you have spent many years in a relationship, being single can feel scary and daunting. Depending on how your relationship ended you can either feel guilty or rejected. Both have a huge impact on your self-esteem.
So, what now?
- First off work on your self-esteem. Take time to find out what you really like and who you are. Start to value the person you are. Spend your single time getting to know and love yourself – I know it sounds corny but it really does lead to a happier life.
- Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to heal and grieve what was and what could have been. I found the hardest thing to get over is – getting over what could have been. After a break up we can be hard on ourselves. I think that it helps to imagine what you would say to a friend in the same position and say this to yourself!
- Try new things – do something that scares you and makes feel alive. Use the time to experiment, try the things you have always wanted to try. This way you will find what you truly love to do without having to compromise!
- Enjoy your single time. A lot of people spend most of their lives in a relationship. Actually enjoy being selfish for once. You even get to take control of the remote contro!!
- Don’t put pressure on yourself to meet someone new.
- Once you have worked on your self-esteem and found the things you love it helps make you confident. The one thing I have found out from running speed dating is that it is not the best looking people who are the most popular. It is the people who are confident and happy.
- Once you have given yourself time to heal it is a good idea to try speed dating. Speed Dating is a great way to help you learn to trust your intuition. It also gives you the opportunity to meet 10-15 in one. It helps you avoid wasting time and energy.